Emotional Wellness and Counseling Resources


Welcome to the Counseling Office at Keystone School!

I’d like to take this opportunity to tell you more about myself and the work that I do with your children here at Keystone.

I have been working as a Licensed Professional Counselor in San Antonio for 22 years, both in private practice and as a counselor in independent schools.  My heart is in education, and I learned early in my career that working with young people and their families in schools is where I belong.  I earned my BA in Psychology from Southwestern University, my MA in Marriage and Family Therapy from St. Mary’s University, and have since received extensive training and additional certifications in the areas of social and emotional learning, conflict resolution, peer mediation, grief counseling and, most recently, mindfulness.

As Keystone’s Counselor I seek to nurture and support the emotional and social development and well-being of our students.  The school has a comprehensive, holistic approach to social and emotional learning, and it is my job to implement and oversee developmentally appropriate programs that will encourage positive growth for students within each division. In the Lower School I oversee the Social and Emotional Learning program, and regularly visit classrooms and lead lessons in topics such as perseverance, good sportsmanship and mindfulness.  In the Upper School, I co-teach a class entitled Self and Community to 9th grade students.  The class is designed to help students develop skills to enhance well-being, and make responsible choices when faced with the pressures and challenges of life.  Topics include stress-relief and relaxation skills, communication, strategies for negotiating and refusing peer pressure, and information about alcohol, tobacco and drugs.

Across all three divisions, I provide support for students and their families, responsive to the emotional needs that arise as a result of life circumstances or due to issues that come up at school.   My goal is to help children develop a “toolbox” of skills that they can use to manage their own emotions, friendships, and relationships. I work closely with all three division heads on issues that arise in the classroom, ensuring that our approach to behavioral issues is coordinated and comprehensive, and that emotional needs are addressed.

If there are extraordinary situations at home or if you have concerns about your child’s social or emotional well-being, please feel free to contact me.  Issues that arise might include illness or death in the family, divorce, separation or remarriage, relocation, or changes in routine.  If necessary, I can provide referrals or direct you to appropriate community resources. Working together, we can take the best steps to meet your child’s needs.

It is my great privilege to be a part of your children’s lives each day, and I look forward to our partnership on their behalf.



Alison Raymer

Keystone School Counselor

(210) 735-4022 x 323



Dear Keystone students and parents,

I often find myself reading an article or book thinking about how much I’d like to share it with parents or students.  I also get requests for good sources of information on specific topics like parenting, mindfulness or dealing with stress and anxiety. To that end I’ve created a resource page to share some of my favorite books, articles and links for topics related to social and emotional development.

I will be adding new entries as I discover them, and would always appreciate hearing from you if you have read something you think would be a good addition to the list.  I hope you find this helpful!  I’d love to hear from you. 

My very best,

Alison Raymer

Keystone Counselor


Mindfulness Resources

For Children:

Sitting Still Like a Frog by Eline Snel (simple mindfulness practices to help your child deal with anxiety, improve concentration, and handle difficult emotions) Love this book!  Comes with a CD.

A Handful of Quiet  by Thich Nhat Hanh

Peaceful Piggy Meditation by Kerry Lee MacLean

 Meditation is an Open Sky by Whitney Stewart

For Parents:

Mindful Parenting by Kristen Race

Mindful Discipline by Shauna Shapiro

Mindfulness for Beginners: Reclaiming the Present Moment – and Your Life by Jon Kabat-Zinn

Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn

Peace is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life by Thich Nhat Hanh and Arnold Kotler


Books and articles for Parents: Parenting, Brain Science & Psychology

The Whole-Brain Child – Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind

          By Daniel Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D

No-Drama Discipline – The whole brain way to calm the chaos and nurture your child’s developing mind

          By Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne-Bryson, PhD

Raising Happiness – 10 simple steps for more joyful kids and happier parents by Christine Carter, PhD

Mindset – The new psychology of success by Carol Dweck, PhD

The Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness by Edward M. Hallowell, M.D.

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown, PhD, LMSW

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown, PhD, LMSW

Brain Rules – 12 Principles for Surviving and Thriving at Work, Home and School by John Medina

Letting Go of Perfect – Overcoming Perfectionism in Kids by Adelson and Wilson

Emotional Preparation for College


Parenting Books for Tweens and Teens

That Crumpled Paper Was Due Last Week: Helping Disorganized and Distracted Boys Succeed in School and Life by Ana Homayoun

Helpful advice for parents struggling with disorganized boys—or girls.


Masterminds and Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World Hard by Rosalind Wiseman

Reveals the way boys think and shows parents, educators and coaches how to reach out and help boys overcome their most common yet difficult challenges.


Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World by Rosalind Wiseman

How girls’ experiences before adolescence impact their teen years, future relationships, and overall success.


Getting to Calm: Cool-Headed Strategies for Parenting Tweens + Teens by Laura S Kastner and Jennifer Wyatt (my personal favorite parenting book for tweens!)

Kastner shows parents how to stay calm and cool-headed while dealing with hot-button issues ---with clear, easy-to-follow suggestions for setting limits while maintaining a close and loving relationship.

Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood by Lisa Damour, Ph.D.

Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel Siegel

Great Books for Kids

For younger children:

Have you Filled a Bucket Today? A guide to Daily Happiness for Kids by Carol McCloud

Simon’s Hook – A story about tease’s and put-downs by Karen Burnett

The Girl Who Never Made Mistakes by Mark Pett and Gary Rubinstein

Beautiful Oops! By Barney Saltzberg


For Third Grade and Up:

From American Girl Press:

          The Feelings Book – The Care and Keeping of Your Emotions

          The Care and Keeping of You

          A Smart Girl’s Guide to Knowing What to Say

Get Organized Without Losing It by Janet Fox

Cliques, Phonies and Other Baloney by Trevor Romain

The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook for Kids by Shapiro and Sprague


For Divorce:

Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids by Iolina Ricci, PhD

The Divorce Helpbook for Kids by Cynthia MacGregor

What in the World Do You Do When Your Parents Divorce? By Winchester and Beyer

Divorce is Not the End of the World – Zoe and Evan’s Coping Guide for Kids by Zoe and Evan Stern


Timely and Helpful Articles:

How to Help Anxious Kids When Bad Things Happen by Natasha Daniels



For Trauma and Loss: