How to talk with your children about recent events
This message originally went out to Keystone parents from Mr. Handmaker via email. We’re reprinting it below:
Dear Keystone Community,
Like people all over the country, my family and I have watched the recent news with a combination of anger and profound sadness. As the video of the killing of George Floyd in Minneapolis circulated, I was infuriated while my heart sank.
Over the past few days, I have wrestled with what to say to you, the Keystone community.
First of all, to the African-American families at Keystone, I want to say how sorrowful I am. Please know that I am here to listen if you would like to talk, and I am happy to be in dialogue with you.
In addition, as someone who grew up in the segregated South and witnessed the civil rights struggle of the 1960’s, I am heartbroken and exasperated that as a society, we’re still grappling with a systemic racism that is woven so deeply into the American fabric.
As an educator, my thoughts go to how we talk to our children about these issues, particularly in a school like Keystone that is so diverse, so inclusive, and has so many African-American families.
First of all, I would never presume to tell parents of children of color how you should have the conversation about racism with your children. I can merely say that I am truly and deeply disappointed that in 2020 you have to engage in this discussion, and we are here to support you.
A recent article from CNN called “How to Talk with Your Children About Protests and Racism” provides pointers for parents on ways to speak with children at different ages. For young children, “parents should do their best to limit the exposure children this age have to media, whether television, smartphones or tablets, experts say.”
As children grow, the level of complexity and sophistication in the conversation will change. For tweens and teens, “kids will be able to think more abstractly about racism, injustice and violent versus peaceful protest and discuss their views with parents, experts say.”
We have linked a variety of resources below for you to use in talking with your children. We hope you find them helpful.
Perhaps as we struggle through these heart-wrenching and turbulent times together, we can teach and embolden our children to engage in the centuries-long struggle for equity and justice for all Americans and remember the words of Martin Luther King, Jr. “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”
William B. Handmaker
Head of School